In this New York Times bestseller, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman, the author defines the five different love languages. He explains how identifying your spouse ‘s primary love language and communicating in it, can be the key to a successful relationship.
“We needed love before we
‘fell in love,’ and we will
need it as long as we live.”
Author and counselor Gary Chapman details what he believes is the key to lasting love and successful relationships. With an academic background in anthropology, or the study of linguistics, Chapman is able to bring a very unique spin to the age-old question, “How do we make our relationship work?”
Good communication is the foundation of almost any relationship, whether it is personal or professional. The most simplified first step towards good communication is speaking the same language. For example, a relationship between someone who only speaks English and one who only speaks Japanese would be difficult to say the least. This is the same concept that shapes the book and Chapman’s relationship philosophy. He believes that everyone speaks an emotional love language, and that there are five distinct different love languages.
1.Words of Affirmation
4.Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
Most people communicate in several different love languages. Chapman believes, however, that each person only has one primary love language that began to develop during adolescence. In a troubled relationship it may be possible that both sides are attempting to express love, but are simply speaking different languages. Identifying the other person’s primary love language and learning to communicate effectively in it, can be the key to success of any relationship.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman is available at 5lovelanguages.com.